THE relationship between a bully and their victim is all about power.

Warwick counselling psychologist Mark Cary said bullies tried to exert power and control over their target.

"Sometimes it becomes a pack mentality and one person targets somebody and other peers might feel pressured to join in,” he said.

Mr Cary offered some insight into how it feels to be engaged in a bullying relationship from both sides of the fence.

Bully:

Unhappy in their own lives

Helps them feel a bit empowered or in control of things

Makes them feel a bit stronger or smarter than the other person

Sometimes bullied in their own lives

Sometimes jealousy is a factor

Don't understand how to have a relationship or socialise so they deal with stress by conflict with other kids

Lacks empathy and foresight, often don't see the consequences

Contempt for those who are nice or seemingly weaker

Victim:

Feel bad about themselves

Difficult to understand why they are targeted, when there are no valid reasons

Usually highly anxious and depressed

Desperate to find some solace, they feel trapped and helpless

See no way out and life may not seem worth living for them particularly if they have to go to school to face those children

Often get other physical stress-related symptoms such as headaches, stomach pains, butterflies in their stomach

Fear going out and walk on egg shells when they do.

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