IT IS often believed that what goes on behind closed doors is nobody else's business - but perhaps sometimes it should be.

Women are subjected to domestic violence every day, yet the issue is often swept under the rug and rarely discussed openly.

People are more likely to be exposed to stories of pub violence than the plight of a domestic violence victim and it may be creating a skewed reality for the community.

Experts who deal with the issue every day have spoken about the taboo that remains on the topic and said it was time to start exposing the deadly dangers many women face.

Bette Bonney sees the aftermath of domestic violence in her roles as both the chairwoman of the Warwick Strategy Group for Domestic and Family Violence Protection and a member of the management committee for Safe Haven.

"People can choose to keep their eyes closed to a degree but the more people who are aware of what is going on, the better," she said.

Mrs Bonney said by exposing the public to both the triumphs and devastations that occurred behind closed doors, women could see they are not alone in their daily struggles.

Violent men often isolate their partners from family and friends in order to increase their dominance and Mrs Bonney said hiding the topic increased feelings of seclusion.

"If (victims of domestic violence) don't hear about it they think they are alone and these women are often isolated already," she said.

DV Connect practice manager Yasmine Hassan said an astonishing one-in-three women would be the victim of domestic violence at some stage in their lives.

She said death is the ultimate act of domestic violence but was often reported as murder, instead of domestic violence.

"Domestic violence is more than two people having an argument and the perpetrators of domestic violence are in control when they commit the acts," she said.

DV Connect helps about 300-400 women per month relocate themselves and their children to a refuge to escape domestic violence.

Mrs Hassan said it was important for people to understand there is no excuse for domestic violence.

"Alcohol and drugs don't cause domestic violence and we have to get away from that and realise it's a choice," she said.

For help dealing with a domestic violence situation call the 24-hour DV Connect hotline on 1800 811 811.